As any mom will tell you, motherhood is made up of really good days and really hard days. Some days, I feel like I was extremely productive and checked all of the boxes on my to-do list. Other days, I feel like I spent most of my day in a messy house as I tended to a teething baby who just won’t go down for a nap.
In all seasons of parenthood, it’s important to remind ourselves of God’s goodness in our lives and His sovereignty over our circumstances. Whether my days feel more fruitful than others, or I’m just at my wits end, I try to rely on the truth of God’s Word to carry me through.
Here are five biblical truths I lean on every day, no matter if it’s good or hard.
Every mom knows that some days are harder than others. Sometimes we are full of patience and compassion, and other days, we find ourselves overwhelmed with the tasks of disciplining children and keeping the house in order.
After the children have gone to bed and the house is quiet and dark, though, a sort of regret starts to creep in. As we reflect on the day, we find ourselves remorseful about all of the times we were impatient, quick-tempered, or annoyed with our kids. It’s not a fun feeling to be reminded of how sinful we are. But that regret should pierce our hearts, lead us to repentance, and remind us that God’s grace is sufficient for us. Tomorrow, when the sun rises, God will have new mercies for us, strength for tomorrow’s challenges, and opportunities to ask our child’s forgiveness.
“But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. ‘The LORD is my portion,’ says my soul, ‘therefore I will hope in Him.’ The LORD is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him.”–Lamentations 3:21-25
One thing we often forget as moms is that God is sovereign. We know this, but we forget to remind ourselves of it each day. We scroll through our Instagram feeds and see a sister in Christ whose son’s brain scan results came back with a tumor or a brother in Christ who lost his daughter in a car accident and we feel guilty because we spent the entire day doing laundry, cleaning up spilled Cheerios, and trying to get our child down for the night. But that’s the challenge the Lord has for us as moms today, and it’s no less important and no less sanctifying.
The restless babies, the constant messes, the bickering in the backseat of the car, the muddy footprints on the floor, the burnt toast, the boo-boo’s — those are the challenges that the Lord has pre-ordained for you to face. We can thank Him for those mishaps, knowing that He sustains us in our exhaustion. He provides peace in our short-temperedness. He provides order in our overwhelmed state. He provides compassion and grace when we cry in frustration. When our emotions are high, we can turn to Him and praise Him for the struggles He has chosen for us today.
It’s impossible to control every aspect of every day as a mom, and there won’t be a day that passes without conflict. The outcome of each day and the outcome of your child’s eternal state are two things beyond your control. What is within your control, however, is your faithfulness.
You can control whether or not you are faithful to teach your children His Word, faithful to discipline them, faithful to be patient and gentle with them, faithful to lead them by example, faithful to act in humility when you sin, faithful to pray for and with them, and faithful to be present and attentive to their needs. You are a steward, mama. A steward of your children, a steward of their souls, and a steward of your home. You are required to be faithful and to trust that God is sovereign over the rest.
“Moreover, it is required of stewards that they be found faithful.”–1 Corinthians 4:2
With all the focus on the behavior of your children as you train and discipline them, are you leading them by example? How are you handling yourself? Are you praying for a gentle and quiet spirit? Are you aware of what leads you down the road of frustration? Are you making changes in the home to avoid those frustrations? Are you praying at the end of each day, asking God for wisdom to do all this?
One thing that’s difficult for me as a mom of a nine month old is when I am trying to finish other tasks around the house, but he needs me constantly. Some days, he can’t play on his own, nap on his own, or be content on his own. Instead of getting frustrated with him, I can avoid doing other tasks until his needs are met. I can consider how God is using these moments to refine me and to make me slower to anger, more gentle, and more patient with my son, who needs his mother. Instead of complaining and moaning at the fact that I can’t do it all, I can rest in that truth.
When we face challenges throughout our day, we should stop to ask ourselves how God is using our current situation to make us more like His son and rejoice in the grace He shows us by giving us opportunities to grow in holiness.
Feminism has taught us that there has to be more to womanhood than being a mom and a keeper of the home. It’s easy to get in our own heads and wonder, “Is this all there is for me?” Part of being a mother is finding joy in the mundane. All of the monotonous tasks are the greatest tasks you will ever do. Through this job, you bring comfort to your loved ones, you make your home a refuge and a warm place to retreat to, and your love is demonstrated through the piles of folded laundry, the hot meals on the table, the streaks on the freshly mopped floors, and the sparkling porcelain on a newly scrubbed toilet. At times it seems gruesome, sometimes even fruitless, but it’s not about perfection. Loving your family with a joyful heart should be your priority, even if it means wiping the counter, sweeping the floor, and washing those dishes for the thousandth time.
So keep going, mom. Leaning on these biblical truths will remind you that you are never alone. Whether you have a wayward teen or an inconsolable toddler, God sees all of your tears, your frustrations, and your heartache. And in the moments when it feels like too much, remind yourself of these truths and rest in the goodness of Him who holds a new tomorrow.
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